Monday, 21 March 2011

Love = Communication

Being in love has taught me more about the 'C' word. What it means and what it means to practice it.

Here are my simple thoughts:

Communication is vital in a relationship. It is what aids its growth and development. Without it, a relationship splutters along and loses its meaning. It is tedious because both parties dive into guessing the other's intentions.

When one fails to communicate clearly, it leaves the other party frustrated and wonders if the other is sincere in the relationship.

Communication is two way. When one is actively advocating it and the other does not reciprocate, it makes it hard for the active one to continue and eventually hold back.

Well, my simple thoughts on the 'Big C' in a relationship.

Time to focus my attention back in class... ^^

1 comments:

dorcas said...

进入一段感情让我们有新的学习。恭喜你可以学习到新的东西^^.以我本人来说,我真在学习沟通,学习体谅的当中。真的不是一件简单的事。很多时候你会认为对方应该知道应该了解你的想法和你想要的到底是什么。但是。。。往往这就会使到你自己伤心难过受伤。两个人的要求不一样所以可能对方会认为自己已经做的很好了,而你,还有什么不满呢?站在你的角度来看,你却认为他不够用心。他到底有没有重视你。为什么很多时候他都会忘记你所说过的话,答应了的事情会做不到.当你很在意很看重这些事而对方确认为不重要时,问题就来了。要如何地解决?是要告诉自己忍一忍吧,还是一人退一步?在感情里,女生都比较细腻而男生就比较糊涂。往往很多的摩擦就此发生。其实每天的短讯是很有帮助的。比如说早安你吃了早餐了吗?午餐你和谁一起吃?我想在在工作但是心却是在想着你在做什么。我要回家了,你呢?生病好了吗?记得要多喝水!不要那么迟睡觉也不要那么迟起床,要照顾身体,不要和太多冷的饮品。要睡觉了你呢?晚安!这些都是关心。不过不知道会不会给一些人来说是太烦了。但是如果连基本的关心都没有的话,那么如何有更深一层的沟通呢?因为不能每次见面所以一些关于日常生活的问题对双方来说就会变得很重要了。这些事情不是以心情好坏衡量,不是忙碌时就可以忽略,不是吵架时因为对方生气了就很积极的去做,风平浪静时就忽略了简单化了。远距离的感情需要更多得用心,更多的沟通更多的爱与付出。